Eagles Don't Fly from Nest to Nest

"Eagles don't fly from nest to nest" - Lakotah teaching on human sexual morals.

I know it upsets guys to hear this, like it upsets people if you tell them god didn't make them gay. but if you don't believe stuff the world and the enemy tell you about yourself (identity) and your sexuality, it makes it a lot easier not to give in to the temptations, and to even become free of the attacks at all to one degree or other. There are guys out in jungles and remote places and they get in conversations with westerners, called anthropologists (who do not even believe God's teaching on sexual morals and who sometimes seem to do all they can to twist their research in favor of their corrupted ones), and they are forced to admit that many tribal guys can't wrap their mind around why anyone would go to a strip club, or why anyone would pursue things like porn.

Lust by itself, like in strip clubs and porn and such, doesn't make any babies, it doesn't make any bonds between people that get them through things together. It doesn't discharge any of the natural functions of sexuality in human lives, at all. There are no creatures out in the wild looking for a chance to watch each other mate,let alone giving up food or nesting material or whatever in exchange for a chance to see it. There is actually no support for the notion that lust like this is natural. It truly isn't found in every human society and isn't found, as far is I know, in ANY animals at all.
Eagles don't fly from nest to nest. According to Russel Means and Bayard Johnson's book, wild canines like wolves and coyotes do not mate promiscuously. Only alpha females and alpha males mate, and only with each other. non-alpha females do get in heat and there are males present but mating does not occur for one reason or other. Domesticated dogs are not particular about mate choice, but those with no human intervention and alteration are very particular. The Lakotah guys I was reading basically interpret the behavior of wild canines as a form of monogamy and take it as testimony from nature that faithfulness in marriage is the dictate of "natural law"or "Universal Law" as they call it, and the will of the Great Spirit for their lives.
Apex predators, which humans are, do not need to multiply like rabbits to keep their balanced spot in an ecosystem. Male apex predators don't behave the way THIS society says men are hardwired to live, and humans are apex predators. Yes it is possible for us all to be tempted to step outside God's balanced plan for our sexuality, but no, he did not hardware our species to do so, not even males. That's what they teach us in women's books, that men are hardwired to be "sexual hunters" to look for chances to mate everywhere, like they would look for food. There is no actual support for that in the natural world and there are even unreached people groups who don't have that view. Mice live like that, they are near the bottom of the food chain and are almost defenseless, but you're not a mouse and neither am I. We - any of us - aren't designed to think/be promiscuous, any more than wolves and eagles are. That is a lie of the devil as much as hardwired homosexuality is, and the church needs to get a grip on truth if we're going to live in freedom God has for us,let alone be light in this gross degree of darkness,
I hope this didn't sound like an attack. It's not one. Truth will make you free, whether it hurts or not, but I hope of course that it doesn't/didn't.

Godspeed

~Mother Star

Review, Stopping and Preventing Child Abuse, Part 5: More Ways to Prevent Abuse and Resources to Fight It With

Not everyone has time to read such long posts as the recent one about stopping child abuse. If someone is suspicious and feels a need to double check the information that made roused their suspicions about a person or situation, the post is not really "reference friendly either". Therefore, I am reposting the information in bits so people can get to it easier.

More Ways to Prevent Abuse:
Whether you suspect abuse or not, let kids in your life know you'll listen, and talk to them often. Acknowledge them. Pedophiles actively seek and are quick to pick up on a child who feels they have no one to talk to or has unmet emotional needs. They use these needs to get close and to win their trust and affection. Abusers do not exclusively pick on the already abused or kids who are lonely or bullied or feel they have no one to talk to, but those kids are easier to make connections to because they are needy. Children who have trusted adults and know they can talk to their parents are more likely to tell when they have been given things they shouldn't have, or offered opportunities to do what they aren't allowed to do. Pedophiles do those things (see above"How ot spot an abuser> "The rules do not apply to me") in order to find out who will tell. This is how they sort of thin the herd of kids they gather around themselves, and decide who to victimize. You may have heard they single out their victims, these are common ways they do so. (DO NOT blame yourself if you were victimized, after being given forbidden things you wanted and not telling, Do not blame kids/teens if this happens to them. This is never their fault).

Report abuse to the law if a child reports it to you. Even with the steps they take to "screen" victims and eliminate kids who are likely to tell, the average convicted child molester is told-on 5 times before any legal action is taken. Five times! That is just not right. If authorities were consistently notified the first time a child reports abuse, the other four who would eventually tell, plus all the ones who would not tell, might not be abused at all. The number of kids being abused could go down by at least 80%, based on that number! If you are told about abuse by a child, it is your responsibility to report it to authorities and/or to parents if a child tells you this. It may be illegal not to, depending where you live.
Here is the child abuse hotline's website if you need more information. https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/This is the number: 1-800 -4-A-CHILD that is 1-800-422-4453. That applies to Americans only, or course. If you do not know your countries hotline number (or if there is one) you should probably look that up, unless you truly neither have kids, nor know or ever see any.

Be careful at fairs, amusement parks and water parks, and other crowded, noisy places. One convicted pedophile interviewed for this research said he'd loved water parks. He got a lot of video plus a lot of "accidental" touching in the wave pool. He said they were some of the best places to go, for a pedophile. Beware, do not let kids go about unsupervised in crowded public places, and keep them very close to you in water parks. Stay right by them and be very watchful - be their bodyguard - if you do go into the wave-pool, but ideally you should probably avoid it.

Never let children go tot the public bathrooms by themselves, no matter how upset they get. This author experienced the consequences of that mistake first-hand, many years ago, and in a church the family only visited once.
While most instances of sexual abuse/assault are committed by someone the victim knows [also true of the sexual assault of adults], usually trust is built and a relationship developed with the parents, whether it is at a church or another social event/hub. That is still not 100% of cases. Asmall percntage of those who abuse children are doing so out of hate, not attraction, and it more like the common motivations for sexual assault of adults - control, dominance, perhaps cruelty. This type of act may also involve physical abuse and/or murder. This type of person may take kids by force from a mall or store, or assault them in the bathroom, They are indeed out there, and we all need to be aware.
 All churches are still located in this fallen world and have fallen people in it of every possible sort, just like the rest of this planet. The doors are open to the public, anyone can open them and enter. Do not take chances with your kids.

Check the state police website for a list/map of the local registered sex offenders and become aware of convicted abusers in your area. Warn you family and others about them.

Thank you for reading. Please put what you'v learned here into practice

Godspeed.

~Mother Star.

Review Preventing and Stopping Child Abuse, Part 3:

Not everyone has time to read such long posts as the recent one about stopping child abuse. If someone is suspicious and feels a need to double check the information that made roused their suspicions about a person or situation, the post is not really "reference friendly either". Therefore, I am reposting the information in bits so people can get to it easier.

Creating a Safe Church (Control Access, Monitoring Programs) Some adults should be kept as far from kids as possible. Controlling access is about keeping people like this away from children as much as possible.

Screen all volunteers - Background Checks, reference checks, etc. - While it is true that a person has to have been caught or reported sometime before this will turn anything up, it is sadly amazing how many incidents would be prevented if adults in responsible positions had done this!

Know where kids are at all times - pretty self-explanitory

Parents or guardians (but only parents or guardians) should be allowed to visit a class or daycare center, anytime with or without notice. Drop in sometime on your kids' daycare, if applicable.

Monitor all programs. Some people start new church programs without proper permission. DO NOT                  TOLERATE THIS! Make sure all programs go through approval process, no exceptions. It crates loopholes for example, if you do background checks but people start programs and such for your church or school without proper permission. They might not have been screened/ Also, an aware pastor or other supervisor might see red-flags in some "programs" for outreach or whatever that are created with these evil ulterior motives. You can't use your discernment for this without being on top of what is going on and making sure no one does these things without your permission.

Lock all unused rooms - probably self-explanitory. People can get behind closed doors with a kid whose trust they have somehow won if the unused doors are not locked! Only carefully screened people should have keys, and they shouldn't be unlocking these doors without good reasons.

Thank you for reading,and please take this seriously. It is part of being salt and light, to shelter innocents from devastation, especially within your own church or community.

Godspeed.

~Mother Star

Review Preventing Child Abuse Part 2: Knowing the Warning Signs of a Potential Abuser or Abusive Situation

Not everyone has time to read such long posts as the recent one about stopping child abuse. If someone is suspicious and feels a need to double check the information that made roused their suspicions about a person or situation, the post is not really "reference friendly either". Therefore, I am reposting the information in bits so people can get to it easier.

Five steps to preventing or stopping sexual abuse:
Know warning signs
Control access
Monitor Programs
Be Aware
Communicate concerns

How to spot a pedophile (Knowing Warning signs):
More excited about socializing with kids than adults.
May have house full of toys (especially concerning if they do not have any kids).
Always wanting to touch kids (not necessarily sexual touching).
Keeps bringing kids over all the time.
"The rules do not apply to me."
     * encourages/lets kids do things that are actually not allowed
     * Gives kids opportunity to engage in forbidden or risky activities or activities their parents do not approve of.
     * Gives kids items their parents do not approve of them having.
     * Generally acts like the rules do not apply to them. Taking pictures without asking, for example,
         Taking kids into unauthorized areas or whatever else, not demonstrating customary respect for parental authority or approval processes.
     * Gives gifts to children without asking parents permission first

Warning signs that a child has been/may have been sexually abused (Knowing Warning signs):
Sudden changes in behaviors
Grades drop
Outbursts of anger


How to approach a young person you suspect may be a victim
Talk with kids patiently, let stuff come out
Let kids know you'll listen to them
Talk to them often
Let kids know you'll listen and not blame them

Review: Preventing Child Abuse. Part 1: Myth Busting About Child Abuse

Not everyone has time to read such long posts as the recent one about stopping child abuse. If someone is suspicious and feels a need to double check the information that made roused their suspicions about a person or situation, the post is not really "reference friendly either". Therefore, I am reposting the information in bits so people can get to it easier.


According to the law enforcement and psychological  authorities who helped design the Vertus program, 3% of the population are pedophiles - which means,[in the clinical world] they have a sexual orientation that is geared toward children, tis part of who they are - and one pedophile can abuse hundreds or even thousands of children in their lifetime. They often start very early, around the age of sexual awareness or in the early teen years, and they do not stop unless someone stops them. They can hurt more kids if they are allowed a position with authority over children/teens and have unsupervised access to them often - teaching, coaching, mentoring, scout leading, daycare work, youth workers, etc. A person with this "orientation" should never be allowed around children at all, but they will actively seek such positions out.

Myth Busting:
Myth 1. Children who report sexual abuse are usually lying.
Fact: Children rarely lie about sexual abuse. Accusations of abuse should always be taken very seriously. 5%, or less, of sexual abuse allegations are intentionally false.

Myth 2. People who were sexually abused will become/are more likely to become sexual abusers.
Fact: Those raised in physically or emotionally abusive homes are very likely to become abusive because that is the way they learned to behave; it's how they learned that a home should be run and discipline administered. Sexually abused people rarely become abusers later. There are many, many times more victims than perpetrators of sexual abuse. This is true of both males and females.

Myth 3. Priests become sexual abusers because of their vow of celibacy.
Fact: The percentage of priests accused and/or convicted of sexual abuse is the same as the percentage of accused and convicted pedophiles in the rest of the population. The vast majority of sexual abusers do not take a vow of celibacy and do engage in sexual acts with other adults. They have a preference for adults who look extremely young.

Myth 4. Most pedophiles are "gay," or have homosexual tendencies.
Fact: the majority of sexual abusers of both boys and girls are heterosexual men. They date, sleep with, and often marry women, with a strong preference for women who look like young girls or seem childlike in some ways. There is no correlation between SSAs/homosexual behavior with other consenting adults, and pedophilia.

Myth 4. You can always recognize a pedophile, they will seem strange and look and behave in an unusual, disturbing or deviant manner. They will be loners and weirdos on the edge of society. They will be poor, probably addicted to drugs. They live in ghettos and slums [this is a symptom of classism and/or racism btw].
Fact: Pedophiles  come from every ethnic, religious, political and socio-economic, occupational, and cultural group. You cannot predict pedophilia by anyones income, race, occupation, tastes, or by their bad habits (or lack thereof) such as smoking, drinking, swearing, spitting, or even other criminal behaviors (or lack thereof) such as drug use. They behave normally in public, are usually extremely charming, persuasive, and can easily win people over. They are frequently everybody's favorite. This is why they are able to gain parents'/guardians'/care-givers' trust in order to access victims, and to manipulate victims into compliance and/or silence. They are often very well-liked and popular, and may be either male or female. They do not appear threatening.

Make sure you note that pedophiles may be male or female. Women can abuse too, both boys and girls.

Five steps to preventing or stopping sexual abuse:
Know warning signs
Control access
Monitor Programs
Be Aware
Communicate concerns

I will re-hash information on how to live out those five steps in future posts. One a day, probably.

A Beautiful Image of Fatherhood

Jerimiah 3:4 "Have you not just called to me: ‘My Father, my friend from my youth,"

Psalm 27:10 "Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me."

Psalm 103:13 "As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him;"

Zephaniah 3:17 (AMP) "The Lord your God is in the midst of you, a Mighty One, a Savior [Who saves]! He will rejoice over you with joy; He will rest [in silent satisfaction] and in His love He will be silent and make no mention [of past sins, or even recall them]; He will exult over you with singing."

Continuing my study on never-before-patriarchal societies and how the men in these view themselves and get along in the world there, and especially in honor of father's day, I offer an account of how the Lakotah of the High Plains traditionally approach fatherhood.
I have included a video done by one of the authors of the book, the late AIM leader, author, musician, and actor Russel Means, discussing this subject on his youtube channel.






According to Russell Means and Bayard Johnson in "If You've Forgotten the Names of the Clouds, You Have Lost Your Way," a woman's pregnancy is divided into quadmesters, not trimesters. Each of these quadmesters lasts three months, and the final quadmester ends three months after birth. The first three months, what we commonly call the first trimester, and the second, and the third, and finally the fourth quadmester which we have no Western equivalent for, all have somewhat different but important duties for the traditional Lakotah father.

The first duty of fatherhood begins when life begins - at conception. His job for the first three months is to get down to his wife's stomach and sing to the unborn baby. "He sings lullabies and other comforting songs, to let the growing child know of his care and love."

The second quadmester is very similar, but instead of just singing, he is supposed to do some regular talking as well. Before the second quadmester starts, the infant probably can hear the sounds. so one of the first sounds baby will ever hear is his/her father's voice, singing of his love and care for him or her.

The third tapers off more of the singing, and greatly emphasizes talking. The purpose of this quality time is to create and strengthen a bond between father and child.

Finally, when the baby is born, dad takes responsibility to  hold the baby and carry him or her around, and to change diapers and to comfort the baby when he or she cries. Only when the baby must eat or when baby particularly wants mommy or for mom to have some quality time too, does he give the baby to her in this quadmester. He is given paternity leave from his tribal duties outside the home for three months to care for his baby full-time.

"Every time the baby cries, it is the father's responsibility to take the newborn and console it. The father learns nurturing this way, and the entire village sees it, even the young children. Everyone sees and acknowledges the Father's vital role in his family and in his newborn's life."

Western science has found that it takes three months for the mother's body to return to normal. "So with the man taking on all the responsibilities during this period of time, and getting a small glimpse of what its like to be a mother, there is also the added benefit of the mother never falling prey to post par-partum depression or any of the other stresses of being overwhelmed by new motherhood and all the responsibilities associated with it." - Russel Means

I do not think there is really anything to add. His testimony of the beauty of fatherhood as celebrated in the traditional High Plains Lakotah way is so beautiful as to take one's breath away.

What can we, as a community, do to help support fathers in their efforts to bond with their children and assist their mates? What can we as employers, friends, relatives, church (or synagogue etc) attenders, new mothers, and neighbors do for the new father's in our lives? What can you, as a man and a new father, do to get closer to your child and assist the new mother in her initial adjustment? Are there special issues involved in the situation somewhere, and if so, what can we do to help? Just some thought to take away from this. Clearly, Lakotah dad's had the support and understanding of the community to be able to take time to bond with his child. It makes a huge difference for them both, too. It also positively impacted the entire community. What can we, as community members, do to help fathers in our part of the world?

Godspeed.

~Mother Star

The First Thing in the Morning

“Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. Show me the way I should go, for to you I entrust my life.” -Psalm 148:8

“Satisfy us in the morning with your unfailing love, that we may sing for joy and be glad all our days.” Psalm 90:14



In “If You've Forgotten the Names of the Clouds, You Have Lost Your Way,” I read of the traditional Lakotah Man's morning ritual:
"In the traditional Lakotah way, the husband wakes at first light, in the early pre-dawn. He doesn't Speak, he doesn't wake his wife sleeping beside him. He goes outside and speaks the Lakotah Morning Prayer [below] with the Morning Star when it is the only star left in the dawn sky. Speaking the morning prayer clears the mind of all worries and anxiety, and makes a person aware of his place in the mosaic of life. It humbles you.”
Then he goes back in the tipi and combs his wife's hair. “Neither speaks a word. The husband's first interaction with his wife is a very sacred exchange. Hair is very important because it grows from the head... Hair holds memory. It is only cut when one is in mourning. This first exchange between a husband and wife is a caressing touch, on a sacred part of the body.” - Russel Means

Lakotah Morning Prayer [most of it anyway, its quite long]:
“Oh Holy Great Mystery, thank You for this day. Thank you for the Universe, our tabernacle, our house of Worship [“house of worship” probably added for clarity to modern readers].
Thank you for the Star People who watch over our water and all that lives and give us direction and place in life [navigational tool, changes in star patterns coincide with changes in seasonal water situation. Not sure if astrology is involved in this statement as well, or not.]
Thank You for the Moon, which also watches over the water and purifies the women naturally [they practiced NFP, and women noted their cycle by the 28 days of the lunar cycle. Menstruation seen as purifying. Modern studies show that NFP strengthens marital bonds].
Thank you for the water.
Thank you for our Sacred Grandmother, the Earth, mother of all living things, for they are our relatives [Lakotah place immense value on all life, human and non-human, and believe God made us all and we all came out of the earth, so we are all related in that way and interact/interdepend kind of like a family is supposed to, or maybe like their clan systems did*].
Thank you for the East wind, which brings the Morning Star which gives us the dawn of a new day, so that we will not repeat the mistakes of yesterday...
Thank you for the Black Tail Deer People [black tail deer, all creatures respected almost like other people in this society*], who live in the East and watch over us [Creation is viewed as a non-threatening, nurturing thing, and everything is sort of doing its part in taking care of each other and you, and that this is how things are supposed to be. There may be a reference to spiritism here too, but not necessarily.* "The Law of the Jungle: Kill or be killed" Was a white/European contrivance.]
Thank you for the South Wind, which brings warmth and generosity to our hearts, minds, bodies and spirits, as well as to our sacred Grandmother, the Earth and all of our relatives [all living things].
Thank you for the Owl People, who live in the South and watch over us [Encampments strategically placed to in relation to different kind of animals and birds I think, but am not 100% sure. Tribe was nomadic before reservation system]*.
Thank you for the West Wind, which gives us the lightening and thunder … which bring the cleansing and refreshing rains for our Sacred Grandmother, the Earth and all our relatives, and which brings cleanliness and refreshment to our hearts, minds, bodies and spirits.
Thank you for the Buffalo people, who live in the West and watch over us.
Thank you for the North Wind, which brings strong and enduring winds that give our sacred grandmother, The Earth, and all our relatives strength and endurance and brings strength and endurance to our hearts, minds, bodies and spirits.
Thank you for the Elk People, who live in the North and watch over us.
Thank you for all the winged beings of the air, for their teachings, their generosity and their sacrifices*. Thank you especially for the eagle, who flies the highest, sees the farthest, and is faithful to its mate.
Thank you for the four-leggeds, who give us so much and teach us so much, and for their sacrifices and sharing*.
And thank you especially for the buffalo, because as the buffalo goes, so go our people.
Thank you for all our relatives who crawl and swim and live within the earth, for their sacrifices and sharing and for their generosity*. Thank you for all their teachings and for everything that they give us*.
Thank you also for all the green, growing things of the earth. They teach us so much and give us so much. Thank you for their sacrifices and their sharing*.
Thank you especially for the tree with whispering leaves, for its strength and independence and for its teachings...
Thank you for the salmon and the other fishes, who teach us that it is our birthright to return to our home.
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Thank you for the Sundance, which allows men an opportunity to comprehend the miracle of new life by sharing, in a small way, the miracle of childbirth**.
Thank you for the Crying for a Vision ceremony, which permits us to recognize a positive and independent road to follow through life**.
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Thank you for the Throwing of the Ball ceremony, which brings the community together as one heart, mind, spirit, and body**.
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Thank you for the ... sweet medicines produced by our green relatives who grow. Together they care for the infirm, the crippled and the sick.
Thank you for the soil, for the clouds, for the white blanket that comes over our Grandmother the Earth in time of cold.
Thank you for the sacred colors, together representing everything that is worthy in life, and individually teaching us so much**.
Thank you for the wind that travels in a circle [tornadoes], for it teaches us respect and wonder and awe [there doesn't seem to be any fear here, though].
I thank you for everything that is holy, and sacred and good.
We are all related. ”

* I will write another post on the natural phenomena God made that this is a reference to.

**I will probably write about this separately, its too much for a footnote and is really good.

If one starts the day like that, every single day, can you imagine how strong their heart will be, and how strong their marriage (if married)? What a beautiful beginning to the day the Lord gave us.
Even if you work third shift, and are headed for bed when the Morning star rises, start your afternoon like that for a while, as close as you can, and see what happens. :) I plan to try it myself, as well.
Take care and God bless ... My Relatives.

~Mother Star

This is a morning song, reportedly from my own tribe, not the Lakotah, but it is along the same lines, so
Enjoy!